It is complicated is often used in "Facebook" regarding relationship status.I think it means that it is difficult to explain.
I grew up being difficult to explain. I can remember the expressions;the looks in the faces when I was introduced or when someone asked about me. In my day, people were interested in family lineage.
I am the daughter of Teresa Montecillo and Juan Rojo. No, they did not marry - so I am illegitimate - a stigma I carried when I was growing up. I never felt good enough. This was very hard on me, causing alienation towards some of the gossipy branch of the PanMon Clan. It was Tata Batyong, Lola Sayong and Lola Eliang who constantly assured my inclusion as a Montecillo when I cried about it.
Tata Batyong would say things like "tell them you are a Montecillo, the rest is none of their business."
Lola Bette was also hard to explain. I was often asked where she came from - she was not Catmonanon nor Cebuano for that matter. Lolo Milong brought her to Catmon from Detroit. Although, I spent a lot of time with members of her family - she would always tell me to leave her family out of the conversation. So her family came and went, when they visited. We visited Bogo and Mabolo.
People often asked what my plans are for the holidays. I spend my holidays with family - my complicated family. Which family?
So here are pieces to the puzzle. Subayon.
Mama Teresa married Dad Ron Elliott. Mama and Daddy had Donna. So now, I have a sister on Mama's side. Dad Elliott's rule is that there are "no steps" - so Donna and I never had the "step" relationship.
I married Lee Rankine - Leto, Rosanne and Lauren are the gifts from the union.We were married for 20+ years. Lauren got together with Mike Hallam and had Dominic. Leto got together with Tracy - so came Manny Henry-Rankine. Rosanne got together with Creek Noke - so we now have Zachary and Gus Rankine-Noke. I love them all!
After Mama Teresa died,Dad Elliott married Mom Josephine Miller Currie bringing her three children - Julie, Karen and Roger. Then Michael was born. Donna married a Rhadigan and had Nicole. Then she married Frank Hayden - Garrett and Brandon came along. Nicole married Simon Haidi - their children are Mina, Gabriel and Alexander.
Julie married a Badamo and had Gina and Joey. Gina married Scott Barber. The children are Shelby, Megan and Gino.Karen married Mario Del Grecco. Michael married Carrie. Roger never married.
I have spent the last 30+ Christmases with this wonderfully blended family. I spend almost all the other American traditional family holidays with them.
I learned to "subay" from Lola Miliang de Dios and from the countless birthdays, weddings,"canta misa" ordinations and of course, funerals - mostly the Montecillo side - that we attended from Catmon to Sogod to Borbon to Naga to Tuburan to Carcar -wherever Montecillo's lived.The experiences gave me a solid Montecillo grounding.
This is where I learned that families can be very complicated but very rewarding if there is cohesion.
Tatay Juan Rojo is ill in San Francisco - I have never spent Christmas with him or my siblings on the Rojo side. Nanay Julia is a Menchavez - so I am blood related to my brothers and sisters there. On the Menchavez side, they are my cousins. I am trying to decide whether to fly out tomorrow or on Christmas Day. I am conflicted on how to allocate my meager resources of time and dollars.
I will pray - I still have three families from Christmas for Kids to finish up.
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Sunday, December 23, 2007
Monday, December 17, 2007
Updates for Family Connections - aka Some of Lola Bette's Lessons
The people we serve.
Just had a snow storm - have 10 inches of snow in the ground - still some folks are outside, some find shelters for the night. God have mercy! It is cold out there - yes,some of them die from exposure or from fires. They try to find shelter in abandoned homes - yes, we have a lot of those also! Go figure????
I see some of them at the soup kitchens - times are hard in Michigan.
Have 58 families for the Madonna University Christmas for Kids Project - about 162 children. These are the left behinds of our consumer society, the excluded from the holiday cheer in the packed malls - they watch television and see excess. And wish and hope!
I have a couple of students combing the malls and stores for gifts and groceries!
I wanted to win the Lotto - so all the people on my list plus Sr. Caroline's 500+ families and Ms. Rodriguez's 100+ have hope for the holidays. My friend brought me down to reality, very quickly - Larry said that if I had the money - I would still be broke because I will always give stuff away.
My standard reply is: "I came with nothing and I leave with nothing," Lola Bette used to say that.
Among the things she told me is that "all people placed in your life are gifts from God - so you better be kind, nice, etc... because they could be angels as in the story of Abraham of the old testament or Jesus in disguise as in the gospels." So how can I argue with that???
It is the same the world over - need, want, wish, hope - lines are blurred. Most people look away - I can't seem to do that - never developed the capacity to look away from injustice and misery!
I try to train students to look at misery and poverty without flinching or running away - it is the only way that we can collectively define the problem, get to the root causes and find solutions.Acts of love are very scarce yet essential in finding solutions.You know doing, something for nothing - no expectations,no strings,suspend all judgenment, etc.
Am I a dreamer or what?
When I was young - we never really had presents but we had a lot of joy and laughter.The best part was "panaygon." We went from house to house and sang Christmas carols.
My godparents - Papa Abog Concha and Mama Uping used to give me a few centavos plus "puso" and whatever else they had to offer. The others who remembered me were my godmother, Mama Natang Roldan, Tio Dido Flores and Tios Doring Flores. One year Auntie Mafe Ares brought me apples and grapes, another year raisins and prunes. That was before she came to the states - same with Mama Natang.
What I really wanted for Christmas were parents - on given days in December, I used to go to the beach and watch for the white ship coming in from Manila and hope, pray and wish that my parents were on it - coming to claim me forever. At least one of them anyway. My idea of parents were very sketchy in my mind. My ideal parent was Tia Ason Estenzo.
I am eating Divine Chocolates - Fair Trade chocolate from Ghana as I write this. I wonder about the children there and what their Christmas is like. The chocolates are excellent - especially the dark ones - reminds me of the "chocolate bits" that Mana Nene Villamor used to give me when she was making "tabliya." Heavenly!
My life is good and full.
Dominic performed in his school Christmas Concert last Thursday - Dad Elliott's birthday. He had a saxophone solo and played a very nice rendition of Oh Canada! The only saxophone solo - I might add. Dominic wants a router for his computer and Xbox 360??? It does not sound like a Christmas gift - sounds like an equipment used by th IT department.
Leto and Manny came to see me yesterday - Leto just finished a short story about one of his adventures in Catmon with Jonald Concha - written in Spanish, no less. Manny wanted a Wiii for Christmas - can't seem to find one.
Zachary had a birthday yesterday but I haven't been able to talk to him. He wanted a Wiii??? for birthday and Christmas. They are hard to come by these days.
With the help of the Madonna University community, family and friends,I hope to give each child on the CFK list an article of clothing, a toy and a book, the family food for the holidays.
Is this too much to ask from the wealthiest, best educated population this world has ever known.
Merry Christmas to all Montecillo/Rivera/Menchavez/Loyola folks wherever you are! I am thankful that I have family like you!Keep me in your prayers, okay?
Sunday, December 09, 2007
Geography Makes a Difference
I am at Lauren's house in Garden City. Slept in the living room couch, woke up saw wall; peeked through blinds, saw street. Peeked at backyard as I drink my first cup of coffee and saw the deck dusted with snow, the yard bounded by the fence in three sides. I go for my walk - all flat, no hills. Garden City Park has lots of trees, walking pathways are made of concrete. The house is warm with love.
At home in Northville, I wake up; windows wide open, the view of the lake and gorgeous sunrises coming over the hill greet me. Have no kitchen window but I watch the lake and the hills beyond as I drink my cup of java in the living room. Sometimes I say my rosary. When I go for my walk, there are hills, mud in the footpaths when it rains. I am alone a lot but not lonely.
In summer when I am walking on top of one of the hills, I think about May and the kalumboyan and Cogon; where I watch the sea from afar and listen to the rustle of cogon grass stroked by the winds of May. Peaceful and soothing.
Now, the lake is rimmed with snow. It is half way frozen - in the the shallow parts mostly - soon almost all of the top will be frozen; ice - a couple of feet deep - the shanties of the ice fishermen will appear, spoiling my view.
I take ownership of the geography that surrounds me. I like to feel part of it all.
I have spent much of my childhood by the sea, in the sea, watching the sea in Catmon; listening to the music of the waves, a symphony with a variety of movements. Being in the water is like being one with the symphonic creation.
The beauty of the geographies are different but still beauty.
Have studied the changes in the geography through the seasons - the tableau seem to nourish my soul and renew my spirit. I think about the wondrous God Creator, steadfast but always changing - I, too, one of His Creations is always changing.
At home in Northville, I wake up; windows wide open, the view of the lake and gorgeous sunrises coming over the hill greet me. Have no kitchen window but I watch the lake and the hills beyond as I drink my cup of java in the living room. Sometimes I say my rosary. When I go for my walk, there are hills, mud in the footpaths when it rains. I am alone a lot but not lonely.
In summer when I am walking on top of one of the hills, I think about May and the kalumboyan and Cogon; where I watch the sea from afar and listen to the rustle of cogon grass stroked by the winds of May. Peaceful and soothing.
Now, the lake is rimmed with snow. It is half way frozen - in the the shallow parts mostly - soon almost all of the top will be frozen; ice - a couple of feet deep - the shanties of the ice fishermen will appear, spoiling my view.
I take ownership of the geography that surrounds me. I like to feel part of it all.
I have spent much of my childhood by the sea, in the sea, watching the sea in Catmon; listening to the music of the waves, a symphony with a variety of movements. Being in the water is like being one with the symphonic creation.
The beauty of the geographies are different but still beauty.
Have studied the changes in the geography through the seasons - the tableau seem to nourish my soul and renew my spirit. I think about the wondrous God Creator, steadfast but always changing - I, too, one of His Creations is always changing.
Friday, December 07, 2007
Grief, and Life Goes On
Fonda believed in serving. She worked very diligently for the victims of Hurricane katrina. Fonda (yellow) and Mary Therese - Americorps/VISTA.
Fonda at the MCC Service Leadership Camp. Fonda is a very thoughtful person.
alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5141357907366630706" />Fonda was in a car accident on Tuesday - we had our first real snow - some sleet, makes very treacherous driving.
Fonda did not make it - all her organs were harvested and donated. She will live on in others both physically and in spirit. God rest her sooul!
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
Abnormal Month, First Snow, Freedom
Well - we had flurries a couple of weeks ago - the warm weather have lasted a long time. The first snow came - a dusting at Thanksgiving, a little that stuck or at least covered the grass yesterday - temperature in the 20's. So it is getting cold.
I hate wearing coats, I hate wearing layers of clothes, I hate wearing boots most of all. But had to break it all out to prep for winter.
Freedom - got my car back - driving again - I just wanted to drive and drive and drive today. I hate driving!
Sounds like I am pretty stressed - too many projects going. It is that time of year. Having the panels of the "The Names Project AIDS Quilt" on display here tomorrow and Friday. The "Christmas for Kids Project" is going have 8 families so far, have the "Students Helping Students" T-shirt and Bag Sale starting, having a Fair Trade Sale next week, have papers to read and check, meetings to attend, etc...
Have 3 students losing their homes - the foreclosure rate is very high in the area. Students needing help to register for next term. Students needing placements for last minute community service and service learning projects.December grads needing recommendations in their portfolios and resumes.
So relax - breathe slowly now - in and out, in and out.
Although I think December is the most abnormal of all months, - it is normal December in life. It is a normal December for me in my job.
I hate wearing coats, I hate wearing layers of clothes, I hate wearing boots most of all. But had to break it all out to prep for winter.
Freedom - got my car back - driving again - I just wanted to drive and drive and drive today. I hate driving!
Sounds like I am pretty stressed - too many projects going. It is that time of year. Having the panels of the "The Names Project AIDS Quilt" on display here tomorrow and Friday. The "Christmas for Kids Project" is going have 8 families so far, have the "Students Helping Students" T-shirt and Bag Sale starting, having a Fair Trade Sale next week, have papers to read and check, meetings to attend, etc...
Have 3 students losing their homes - the foreclosure rate is very high in the area. Students needing help to register for next term. Students needing placements for last minute community service and service learning projects.December grads needing recommendations in their portfolios and resumes.
So relax - breathe slowly now - in and out, in and out.
Although I think December is the most abnormal of all months, - it is normal December in life. It is a normal December for me in my job.
Sunday, November 25, 2007
Thanksgiving Aftermath, Sock Story and All That
Oh, Oh, Oh - still in my pajamas - have not made it to church, have eaten too much and have become laggard.Discovered that I did not bring enough clothes - so had to wash what I wore - still in the dryer.
The Thanksgiving feasts here at Lauren's and at Nicki's were sinfully great and excessive.Now comes the leftover days - add the "bring house" leftovers from Nicki's and John's family party - we are grazing on the food.
John did break down last night and made hamburgers. He also cooked bacon and eggs for breakfast but then warmed up the apple cobbler from his sister's house - pure gluttony.
I finished one of the books I was reading - "The Elephant and The Dragon" by Robyn Meredith. Got caught up with my work e-mail - just the reading part. Checked on my Facebook and updated some stuff, got caught up with some of my groups, events, projects and sent some greetings.
Working with my beading.I design and make beaded jewelry. I started in my teen years taking "jewelry making classes" in Japan and have just started back up. It is hard to "design on the fly" and make the jewelry right away. It is hard to make time.
Had a big argument with Dominic last night - he cried and I cried - sometimes things are said that shouldn't be said - and we both did. It is hard to raise assertive, opinionated,outspoken lawyers. Sometimes the line of respect is blurred and crossed. We kissed and made up.
Been for a couple of short walks - Garden City holds a special place for me. I served as the Executive Director of the Garden City Chamber of Commerce for over a year, before my divorce. A lot of fond and happy memories in this town - lived here for 14 years...
The "sock story" - my sister or was it my sisters and I were going shopping or something. I have never gotten into the "dressing/make-up/primping business" and would usually throw on my back whatever I can get my hands on. So,I put my shoes on even though my socks did not match, much to my sisters' "chagrin" and they say "embarrassment."
Well,dryers love to eat my socks one sock at a time.I hate to throw away the remaining sock - I think it is wasteful and bad for the environment. So I keep them and wear them.
Socks are worn under shoes, boots, pants - and who is going to be interested in my socks - I am sure the "Fashion Police" have better things to do - besides I am too busy with other more important things.
So there you are and here I am - always trying to be the best person I can be like Lola Bette taught me.
The Thanksgiving feasts here at Lauren's and at Nicki's were sinfully great and excessive.Now comes the leftover days - add the "bring house" leftovers from Nicki's and John's family party - we are grazing on the food.
John did break down last night and made hamburgers. He also cooked bacon and eggs for breakfast but then warmed up the apple cobbler from his sister's house - pure gluttony.
I finished one of the books I was reading - "The Elephant and The Dragon" by Robyn Meredith. Got caught up with my work e-mail - just the reading part. Checked on my Facebook and updated some stuff, got caught up with some of my groups, events, projects and sent some greetings.
Working with my beading.I design and make beaded jewelry. I started in my teen years taking "jewelry making classes" in Japan and have just started back up. It is hard to "design on the fly" and make the jewelry right away. It is hard to make time.
Had a big argument with Dominic last night - he cried and I cried - sometimes things are said that shouldn't be said - and we both did. It is hard to raise assertive, opinionated,outspoken lawyers. Sometimes the line of respect is blurred and crossed. We kissed and made up.
Been for a couple of short walks - Garden City holds a special place for me. I served as the Executive Director of the Garden City Chamber of Commerce for over a year, before my divorce. A lot of fond and happy memories in this town - lived here for 14 years...
The "sock story" - my sister or was it my sisters and I were going shopping or something. I have never gotten into the "dressing/make-up/primping business" and would usually throw on my back whatever I can get my hands on. So,I put my shoes on even though my socks did not match, much to my sisters' "chagrin" and they say "embarrassment."
Well,dryers love to eat my socks one sock at a time.I hate to throw away the remaining sock - I think it is wasteful and bad for the environment. So I keep them and wear them.
Socks are worn under shoes, boots, pants - and who is going to be interested in my socks - I am sure the "Fashion Police" have better things to do - besides I am too busy with other more important things.
So there you are and here I am - always trying to be the best person I can be like Lola Bette taught me.
Saturday, November 24, 2007
Black Friday
Well, Donna is working today - it is the biggest shopping day of the year. I hate shopping, so I stay home. I am highly allergic to malls or box stores. I think it is better to support the Mom and Pop shops. Better for the community, better for the environment and better for the economy.
I have only been to a Wal-Mart once - in Texas- when the store was the only game in town. I went in, picked up what I needed and walked out. All the time feeling guilty for not planning my trip better. Felt like I wanted to go to confession after.
Lauren started her shopping at 5:00 AM. Claims she got pretty good deals but then she has a lot of shopping - our family, John's family - the numbers add up.
I confess that I was tempted to shop - even went to the bank to get some $$$ - but then changed my mind and went for a walk instead. I gave Lauren some money to shop for Rosanne, Zachary, Gus and Creek - we have to put those in the mail soon.
My thing is give books, gift cards, gift certificates, give cash - supposedly, it is not fun to open those in opening on Christmas Day. A present is a present!The youngsters - Donna's children, Julie's children and my children used to tease me by shaking the books and pretend to guess what was inside.
Books can give and give for a life time not just Christmas.
I have only been to a Wal-Mart once - in Texas- when the store was the only game in town. I went in, picked up what I needed and walked out. All the time feeling guilty for not planning my trip better. Felt like I wanted to go to confession after.
Lauren started her shopping at 5:00 AM. Claims she got pretty good deals but then she has a lot of shopping - our family, John's family - the numbers add up.
I confess that I was tempted to shop - even went to the bank to get some $$$ - but then changed my mind and went for a walk instead. I gave Lauren some money to shop for Rosanne, Zachary, Gus and Creek - we have to put those in the mail soon.
My thing is give books, gift cards, gift certificates, give cash - supposedly, it is not fun to open those in opening on Christmas Day. A present is a present!The youngsters - Donna's children, Julie's children and my children used to tease me by shaking the books and pretend to guess what was inside.
Books can give and give for a life time not just Christmas.
Family Day - Thanksgiving 2007
Reflecting on this year's celebration, I have to say it was most relaxing. John picked me up at home on Wednesday night - Lauren's birthday. I bought her a new roasting pan and placed the uncooked turkey on top as a joke. I already gave her a cook book and a cutting board with matching trivet. She is not into cooking but it is a start. She works a lot of hours and has always been that way.
I woke up at 6:45 to fix the stuffing, stuff it in the turkey and put the turkey in the oven - had it all done by 7:30. I thought about Uncle Tasio doing the same thing when we spent thanksgiving with him. Of course my mother, Theresa did the same thing while we slept. I went back to bed! Lauren and John started to do the other fixings at about 9:30 AM. The usual fare - cranberry sauce, green beans, potatoes, corn, pumpkin pie. chips and dips, salad, etc.
Michael - Dominic's Dad called to wish Dominic a happy thanksgiving. Tatay and family called from California. I talked to my sister Jette Meehleib and family in Arizona and Rosanne and family in Alabama.
We are celebrating individually this year - last year, we celebrated at Michael's and Lauren and John were not able to come because John's family lives on the opposite side of town.
Leto and Manny arrived at about 11:00. They brought the pecan pie, poppy seed coffee cake and dinner rolls. I fixed the vegetarian fare for both of them - vegetarian stuffing, mashed sweet potatoes, etc...
Larry came at 1:00 PM - we had our dinner. After dinner, Lauren, John and Dominic went to celebrate with John's family in Commerce Township. Manny was dropped off at his Grandma Sharon's to celebrate with Tracy's family. Larry, Leto and I went to Nicki's to be with Donna and her family. Donna was in charge of taking pictures but she forgot so please use your imaginations.
Nicki served her dinner at 6:00 PM. We visited and talked - Rosanne called at 8:00 PM. Manny was dropped off to be with us at 8:30. Lauren came back at 9:30. We visited with each other while picking on desserts and fruits. Nicki served some very sweet mango wedges and pineapple wedges. What gluttons we turn out on this day!
We all headed for home at about 10:30.
The left overs are still in the fridge - we will continue to eat whatever is left this weekend. I am a bit tired of it and thinking of cookin some rice today. Some fish to go with it sounds good right now.
Needless to say family days like thanksgiving are very full days with lots of travel and driving to get together with family.
I promise to take the Christmas pictures.
I woke up at 6:45 to fix the stuffing, stuff it in the turkey and put the turkey in the oven - had it all done by 7:30. I thought about Uncle Tasio doing the same thing when we spent thanksgiving with him. Of course my mother, Theresa did the same thing while we slept. I went back to bed! Lauren and John started to do the other fixings at about 9:30 AM. The usual fare - cranberry sauce, green beans, potatoes, corn, pumpkin pie. chips and dips, salad, etc.
Michael - Dominic's Dad called to wish Dominic a happy thanksgiving. Tatay and family called from California. I talked to my sister Jette Meehleib and family in Arizona and Rosanne and family in Alabama.
We are celebrating individually this year - last year, we celebrated at Michael's and Lauren and John were not able to come because John's family lives on the opposite side of town.
Leto and Manny arrived at about 11:00. They brought the pecan pie, poppy seed coffee cake and dinner rolls. I fixed the vegetarian fare for both of them - vegetarian stuffing, mashed sweet potatoes, etc...
Larry came at 1:00 PM - we had our dinner. After dinner, Lauren, John and Dominic went to celebrate with John's family in Commerce Township. Manny was dropped off at his Grandma Sharon's to celebrate with Tracy's family. Larry, Leto and I went to Nicki's to be with Donna and her family. Donna was in charge of taking pictures but she forgot so please use your imaginations.
Nicki served her dinner at 6:00 PM. We visited and talked - Rosanne called at 8:00 PM. Manny was dropped off to be with us at 8:30. Lauren came back at 9:30. We visited with each other while picking on desserts and fruits. Nicki served some very sweet mango wedges and pineapple wedges. What gluttons we turn out on this day!
We all headed for home at about 10:30.
The left overs are still in the fridge - we will continue to eat whatever is left this weekend. I am a bit tired of it and thinking of cookin some rice today. Some fish to go with it sounds good right now.
Needless to say family days like thanksgiving are very full days with lots of travel and driving to get together with family.
I promise to take the Christmas pictures.
Monday, September 17, 2007
More From The Party
Precious Baby Gus
This is Yohannan Auguste Rankine-Noke. He is the youngest of my grandchildren. He is a little bit bigger than this. I am looking forward to seeing him soon.
Rosanne's Children
Zachary all handsome and bright!
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Big Sister Jasmine, Zachary and Gus
They live in Mobile, Alabama. I don't see much of them. I miss them a lot!
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
More Pictures
Garrett and Alexander laying down on Dominic's trampoline. It is one of the best spots in Lauren's yard to take naps and read a book.
Random Pictures
Pictures From The August Party
Wednesday, September 05, 2007
Sunday, September 02, 2007
Family Defined
Alone today, the semester starts the day after tomorrow. Woke up earlier, Lauren, John, Dominic and Mike were leaving for Cedar Point. Cedar Point, is a park in Ohio; about 2 1/2 hours from metro-Detroit with lots of rides. Lauren loves rides, so does Dominic. Lauren was in the 9th grade, the last time I was in Cedar Point. I drove Lauren and a group of her friends there. I went to Cedar Point a lot more when my children were young.
I was going to go and take Manny with me but changed my mind. Manny is a bit small and there will be no one to take him on the rides. A lot of the rides have height and weight requirements. I don't like rides. Rides make me dizzy and sick - literally throwing up sick. I remember Tia Geline taking me to a carnival in Cebu City - the merry go round made me sick.
Anyway, it is a family day for Dominic. His birthday had been celebrated since last Sunday - on Friday, there was a birthday party at his Grandma Barb's and Grandpa Marty's house with John's family.
Yesterday - his actual birthday, September 1, I took him to Burger King for lunch. We told some birthday stories, like how we were all at the hospital, at the birthing room when he was born - Leto, Rosanne, Donna and I, that is. Donna is the first family member to hold him. Dominic is 12 years old now.
I gave Dominic his first copy of "War and Peace" for his birthday. Paperback with a promise of a hardcover if he finishes the paperback one. I was about his age when I started reading "Anna Karenina" from the old Northern High School library - I was 12 years old just finishing my junior year in high school. I remember talking to Noe Sy about Tolstoy.
Before I knew it, I was reading "War and Peace" right after that. I can't remember where I got the book. Lola used to get so angry that I read so much - she said I was very much like my mother - I guess Mom read a lot, too !!! Of course, that is according to Ms. Branzuela and Mr. Belarmino.
Yesterday afternoon, Dominic's Grandma Del had a barbecue birthday party for him at her house with Mike's family. He is a very lucky boy.
I did not meet my father until I was 13 years old.
Today, he is with his immediate blended family. Mike was a bit late, he lives across town - not quiet as far as Donna's but far enough.
We have come a long way, I still vividly remember the spankings and "Luhod sa Bugas"-
whenever Lola and Tia got wind that I had contact with any of the Rojos.
Go figure??? Catmon is a very small town - there was no way to escape contact with the Rojos, let alone hide the contacts. The gossip mill was faster than electronic e-mail, then!
I have to admit that I went out of my way to seek a relationship and connection with my father's side of the family, no matter what happened to me in process. I understand now, that it is a very natural process in human development.
Leto has Manny with him every other weekend and when he is off school or work in between. He pays his child support and carries other parts of the parenting burden. It is sometimes difficult for him - Manny lives with his mother, stepfather and siblings in Detroit and Leto lives in Ann Arbor.
I spoke to Rosanne today - just got back from church with her two boys Zachary and August (Zach and Gus). And during school holidays and summers, Creek's daughter Jasmine lives with them in Mobile, Alabama. Jasmine lives with her mother in Atlanta, Georgia.
Zachary is being home schooled. He is a very smart boy - can read and write well for a 5 year old. Rosanne is trying to save him from kindergarten boredom.
It looks like Gus may need another surgery on his tibia - I feel so bad for him. He was born with club feet. He has had to go through so many surgeries on his feet and ankles. He continues to wear braces but is walking fine according to Ro.
This is how my branch of the family is defined at the moment. Who knows what the future holds for families these days?
I was going to go and take Manny with me but changed my mind. Manny is a bit small and there will be no one to take him on the rides. A lot of the rides have height and weight requirements. I don't like rides. Rides make me dizzy and sick - literally throwing up sick. I remember Tia Geline taking me to a carnival in Cebu City - the merry go round made me sick.
Anyway, it is a family day for Dominic. His birthday had been celebrated since last Sunday - on Friday, there was a birthday party at his Grandma Barb's and Grandpa Marty's house with John's family.
Yesterday - his actual birthday, September 1, I took him to Burger King for lunch. We told some birthday stories, like how we were all at the hospital, at the birthing room when he was born - Leto, Rosanne, Donna and I, that is. Donna is the first family member to hold him. Dominic is 12 years old now.
I gave Dominic his first copy of "War and Peace" for his birthday. Paperback with a promise of a hardcover if he finishes the paperback one. I was about his age when I started reading "Anna Karenina" from the old Northern High School library - I was 12 years old just finishing my junior year in high school. I remember talking to Noe Sy about Tolstoy.
Before I knew it, I was reading "War and Peace" right after that. I can't remember where I got the book. Lola used to get so angry that I read so much - she said I was very much like my mother - I guess Mom read a lot, too !!! Of course, that is according to Ms. Branzuela and Mr. Belarmino.
Yesterday afternoon, Dominic's Grandma Del had a barbecue birthday party for him at her house with Mike's family. He is a very lucky boy.
I did not meet my father until I was 13 years old.
Today, he is with his immediate blended family. Mike was a bit late, he lives across town - not quiet as far as Donna's but far enough.
We have come a long way, I still vividly remember the spankings and "Luhod sa Bugas"-
whenever Lola and Tia got wind that I had contact with any of the Rojos.
Go figure??? Catmon is a very small town - there was no way to escape contact with the Rojos, let alone hide the contacts. The gossip mill was faster than electronic e-mail, then!
I have to admit that I went out of my way to seek a relationship and connection with my father's side of the family, no matter what happened to me in process. I understand now, that it is a very natural process in human development.
Leto has Manny with him every other weekend and when he is off school or work in between. He pays his child support and carries other parts of the parenting burden. It is sometimes difficult for him - Manny lives with his mother, stepfather and siblings in Detroit and Leto lives in Ann Arbor.
I spoke to Rosanne today - just got back from church with her two boys Zachary and August (Zach and Gus). And during school holidays and summers, Creek's daughter Jasmine lives with them in Mobile, Alabama. Jasmine lives with her mother in Atlanta, Georgia.
Zachary is being home schooled. He is a very smart boy - can read and write well for a 5 year old. Rosanne is trying to save him from kindergarten boredom.
It looks like Gus may need another surgery on his tibia - I feel so bad for him. He was born with club feet. He has had to go through so many surgeries on his feet and ankles. He continues to wear braces but is walking fine according to Ro.
This is how my branch of the family is defined at the moment. Who knows what the future holds for families these days?
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
Hello, Kapitan Panta Families - Wherever You Are
Lolo Aqui used to tell wild stories about flying saucers and aliens landing in the bamboo grooves - the strange physical characteristics and vehicles - used to scare me a lot but I also loved it - so I would beg for Lolo Aqui tell me about the agta, or the woman who walked around Poblacion and hang out by the imburnal - that was before Ingko David moved their house and store there - so it would go on and on. It was greeaat! After listening to the stories my imagination would just go wild all night.
Remember, this was before electricity, paved roads and the last "Autobus" trip came around 8:00 PM - the end of motor traffic!!! - unless Uncle Tino had a housecall to make or an emergency run by the "corporation" - which was really a truck driven by
Tio Pedro Monsanto before he was mayor.
Anyway, after viewing Mecmec's website with the family reunion posting - I was overwhelmed. I cried a little from my heart's longing to be with all of you. Then today, I thought about Lolo Aqui a lot. I wonder what he would think about some of advances in communication and technology. I missed him a lot - his stories and his smell - he always smelled like a freshly bathe baby.
I am going to be very busy - school starts next Tuesday, I teach on Tuesdays. I am doing RA training tomorrow - had 3 faculty meetings already - skipped 2 of those - had a community meeting in Westland. Had an advising session with one of the Filipino students from Bacolod today - it was fun - he is very homesick,too.
Thank you Many Aliado and Ingko Tony - of course,Mecmec. Please feel free to comment on my blogs.
Remember, this was before electricity, paved roads and the last "Autobus" trip came around 8:00 PM - the end of motor traffic!!! - unless Uncle Tino had a housecall to make or an emergency run by the "corporation" - which was really a truck driven by
Tio Pedro Monsanto before he was mayor.
Anyway, after viewing Mecmec's website with the family reunion posting - I was overwhelmed. I cried a little from my heart's longing to be with all of you. Then today, I thought about Lolo Aqui a lot. I wonder what he would think about some of advances in communication and technology. I missed him a lot - his stories and his smell - he always smelled like a freshly bathe baby.
I am going to be very busy - school starts next Tuesday, I teach on Tuesdays. I am doing RA training tomorrow - had 3 faculty meetings already - skipped 2 of those - had a community meeting in Westland. Had an advising session with one of the Filipino students from Bacolod today - it was fun - he is very homesick,too.
Thank you Many Aliado and Ingko Tony - of course,Mecmec. Please feel free to comment on my blogs.
Monday, August 27, 2007
Family There, Family Here, Family Everywhere
The new generation in Michigan - Manny (Leto's son) and Mina (Nicole's Daughter)
Here's Donna and I - daughters of Teresa (Nene) - daughter of Emilio and Beatriz Montecillo.
The family here is small - these are the girls in the family taken a long time ago. In the center is Lauren, Nicole, Edna, Rosanne, Donna, Julie and Karen. Where was Gina?
Manoy Aliado gave me this family reunion photo in 1997. Although, I don't know everybody - would love to know everyone - I keep the photo in my office. A new one would be great!!! Hint, Hint!
Family, Family, Family!!!
This is John, Lauren's partner and Dominic. All these photos were taken on my 60the birthday party.
This is Alexander - Nicki's youngest son - a character for sure.
Frank is Donna's hubby. Gabriel is Nicole's middle son. He has a very Montecillo face, I think.
Can you believe it - Donna is Leto's godmother. Look at him now!
With two of my grandsons - Dominic and Emmanuel. Taken on my 60th birthday party. Oh How time flies - I do miss Ro and her boys a lot - Gus and Zachary.
Friday, August 24, 2007
Summer With Dominic
My day started early and well - went to breakfast at Baker's Square in Livonia (they closed the one in Westland). Then went for a hike at the Livonia Rotary Park with Larry. I like the park because of the woods and the trails along a tributary to the Rouge River. Reminds me of walking along the Naghalin River close to the bridge towards Suba.
It is very hot and humid today. Took my grandson, Dominic to the Henry Ford Museum. It is one of the largest historical museums in the country. Among other things the chair they used to carry Lincoln after he was shot is there - the bloodstains can still be seen. So is the car the President Kennedy was riding in, when he was shot is also there and so is Edison's laboratory and all that - it would take a good three to four days to really take in everything and appreciate US history and all that.
Needless to say, it is one of the coolest places in metro-Detroit if not Michigan. We went to see the "Rock Stars Cars and Guitars" exhibit. So we saw the cars owned by Madonna, Elton John, Elvis Presley, etc and the guitars also!!!
Yes, John Lennon's custom psychedelic Rolls Royce is beautiful. The paint job is a magnificent work of art.
We went to Henry Ford Museum three weeks ago. I did not post this earlier because I was looking for a picture of Dominic to go along with it - he has grown a lot - just a bit taller than I am.
I am not sure how the summer disappeared - haven't been swimming at all this year - have only been sailing one time - now I have one more week before school starts. I am rearranging my office - already had one faculty meeting last week and I think two more next week. A lot of thunderstorms lately and I hate driving in the rain.
Thunder and lightning still frighten me but not as bad - I use to literally crawl in bed and cover up.
It is very hot and humid today. Took my grandson, Dominic to the Henry Ford Museum. It is one of the largest historical museums in the country. Among other things the chair they used to carry Lincoln after he was shot is there - the bloodstains can still be seen. So is the car the President Kennedy was riding in, when he was shot is also there and so is Edison's laboratory and all that - it would take a good three to four days to really take in everything and appreciate US history and all that.
Needless to say, it is one of the coolest places in metro-Detroit if not Michigan. We went to see the "Rock Stars Cars and Guitars" exhibit. So we saw the cars owned by Madonna, Elton John, Elvis Presley, etc and the guitars also!!!
Yes, John Lennon's custom psychedelic Rolls Royce is beautiful. The paint job is a magnificent work of art.
We went to Henry Ford Museum three weeks ago. I did not post this earlier because I was looking for a picture of Dominic to go along with it - he has grown a lot - just a bit taller than I am.
I am not sure how the summer disappeared - haven't been swimming at all this year - have only been sailing one time - now I have one more week before school starts. I am rearranging my office - already had one faculty meeting last week and I think two more next week. A lot of thunderstorms lately and I hate driving in the rain.
Thunder and lightning still frighten me but not as bad - I use to literally crawl in bed and cover up.
Thursday, August 16, 2007
Connecting Relatives
I love doing this!!! During our conversation tonight I just happened to mention how much I enjoy reading the blogs of Phoebe Montecillo Salabsab Coloscos to my sister Donna Jean Montecillo Elliott Hayden. So she asked me to show it to her.
I got on the computer here in Garden City as she got on the computer at her house in Sterling Heights (47 miles away). Donna is not into computers. So I walked her to Phoebe's blog on the phone. We had fun, although I couldn't get her to leave a comment.
I am still trying to talk her into getting an e-mail account. Slowly but surely she is getting around this wonderful technology.
Then the conversation switched to our observation that Manoy Aliado Concha (Uncle Johnny to Donna)was in one of the pictures of Mecmec's Sinulog slide show. So we had to go to the website www.thecatmonanon.cjb.net to check.
This is getting to be fun, sharing with the family here. I hope that you will all continue to keep up the good work so we can stay connected.
I got on the computer here in Garden City as she got on the computer at her house in Sterling Heights (47 miles away). Donna is not into computers. So I walked her to Phoebe's blog on the phone. We had fun, although I couldn't get her to leave a comment.
I am still trying to talk her into getting an e-mail account. Slowly but surely she is getting around this wonderful technology.
Then the conversation switched to our observation that Manoy Aliado Concha (Uncle Johnny to Donna)was in one of the pictures of Mecmec's Sinulog slide show. So we had to go to the website www.thecatmonanon.cjb.net to check.
This is getting to be fun, sharing with the family here. I hope that you will all continue to keep up the good work so we can stay connected.
Tuesday, August 14, 2007
The Picture Of Success
This is my picture of success. Every year at the Madonna University graduation ceremonies, I have the pleasure of watching my students receive their diplomas. This particular student is from Albania. He is now in graduate school working on his graduate degree in health services. It has been a pleasure working with students from all over the world.
Two of my students from the Philippines just stopped by to let me know that they are back to Michigan. They opted to stay in the US and do some traveling, rather than go back to the Philippines for the summer. One of them is graduating this year. They just returned from South Carolina and Florida. They will be going to New York City tommorrow.
Another student from India, just returned from visiting a Hindu temple in upstate New York. Upstate New York is one of my favorite places in the US - everyone else can have New York City.
Just thought I would share a tiny slice of my life.
Sunday, August 12, 2007
Tagay Tuba
On one of the shows, they had an expert give some guidance and tips on "How to Cope at the Wine Shop". I started laughing because I grew up running to stores to buy "Usa Ka Tipo" for Lola. I hated it - especially if it was dark at night - this was before electricity came to Catmon. But Lola liked her tuba. Have to admit - real good tuba tastes like champagne. No lie!
From my current position, education and life experience, I feel sad and more sympathetic about Lola Bette's plight and the other victims of the disease, Alcoholism is a disease. This disease has a biological, psychological and social component.
Genetic components make some folks more prone to the disease. So the prevention strategy that works best is complete abstinence. The younger the exposure to alcohol the higher the risk for the disease.
Psychological stress and issues can heighten the risk of disease. Often times people use alcohol to relieve psychological pain and stress. Anger, emptiness,loneliness, abandonment issues, grief issues, etc. can lead people to self medicate with alcohol and other drugs to ease if not forget the pain.
Non-judgemental, open, supportive conversations and the acquisition of coping skills are some of the healing and prevention strategies that are proven to have worked. This is one of the reasons why Alcoholics Anonymous is the most effective and successful strategy in the world.
The social component is composed of the family and friends around the individual. "Birds of a Feather, Flock Together" is the operative saying. Peer pressure, the need to be accepted and looked upon as "Cool" play a huge part. The strategy to use in prevention is to vary the people around you.
Alcoholism is a family disease. It has a reach of at least 7 generations, even with interventions and complete abstinence. Nobody wakes and decide "I think I am going to be an alcoholic today." The craving and need to drink, when the disease is full blown is completely involuntary. To stop "cold tureky" can be very dangerous.
Incidentally, if you search for "Montecillo" in the web. The majority of the hits is for Montecillo wines from Bodegas Montecillo. The origins are from the Ebro River Valley, South of Barcelona, Spain. If part of our ancestry originated from there, this makes us a high risk family!
So go figure!
From my current position, education and life experience, I feel sad and more sympathetic about Lola Bette's plight and the other victims of the disease, Alcoholism is a disease. This disease has a biological, psychological and social component.
Genetic components make some folks more prone to the disease. So the prevention strategy that works best is complete abstinence. The younger the exposure to alcohol the higher the risk for the disease.
Psychological stress and issues can heighten the risk of disease. Often times people use alcohol to relieve psychological pain and stress. Anger, emptiness,loneliness, abandonment issues, grief issues, etc. can lead people to self medicate with alcohol and other drugs to ease if not forget the pain.
Non-judgemental, open, supportive conversations and the acquisition of coping skills are some of the healing and prevention strategies that are proven to have worked. This is one of the reasons why Alcoholics Anonymous is the most effective and successful strategy in the world.
The social component is composed of the family and friends around the individual. "Birds of a Feather, Flock Together" is the operative saying. Peer pressure, the need to be accepted and looked upon as "Cool" play a huge part. The strategy to use in prevention is to vary the people around you.
Alcoholism is a family disease. It has a reach of at least 7 generations, even with interventions and complete abstinence. Nobody wakes and decide "I think I am going to be an alcoholic today." The craving and need to drink, when the disease is full blown is completely involuntary. To stop "cold tureky" can be very dangerous.
Incidentally, if you search for "Montecillo" in the web. The majority of the hits is for Montecillo wines from Bodegas Montecillo. The origins are from the Ebro River Valley, South of Barcelona, Spain. If part of our ancestry originated from there, this makes us a high risk family!
So go figure!
Friday, August 10, 2007
Tata Batyong
The first one of the brothers to travel to the US was Tata Batyong (Gervasio). Apparently, he signed up as a Philippine Scout during the first world war. The Philippines was a colony and possession of the US then. That was around 1914 - 1916?? - will have to check my history for exact dates.
I am not sure how many of the Catmonanons served in the military, but quiet a few settled in Detroit. I know Tata Batyong served for sure because he was able to collect a small pension for his service. He brought my grandfather, Emilio to the US and I believe Michigan. Later on, his twin brother (Protacio) Uncle Tasio and his nephew, Uncle Carling(Carlos Regalado) came also. I will write about what I know about them in another blog.
Their cousins,Uncle Bennie (Benito Rivera Jurado)and Uncle Paul (Pablo Rivera Jurado)also came and settled in Detroit. So did Uncle Elie (Elias Rivera Jurado Monsanto)- Lola Ninang's son who later married Auntie Nina Joromo.
I don't know how or why Tata Batyong ended back in Catmon or how and why Uncle Tasio ended up in Knightsen, California. It is one of the twist and turns of family history that we may never find out.
It has been fun for me to think and write about the family story. I hope you will share this with your family. Knowledge of family history is supposed to be good for the identity development of young people.
Family provides us roots to keep us grounded and help us grow.
I am not sure how many of the Catmonanons served in the military, but quiet a few settled in Detroit. I know Tata Batyong served for sure because he was able to collect a small pension for his service. He brought my grandfather, Emilio to the US and I believe Michigan. Later on, his twin brother (Protacio) Uncle Tasio and his nephew, Uncle Carling(Carlos Regalado) came also. I will write about what I know about them in another blog.
Their cousins,Uncle Bennie (Benito Rivera Jurado)and Uncle Paul (Pablo Rivera Jurado)also came and settled in Detroit. So did Uncle Elie (Elias Rivera Jurado Monsanto)- Lola Ninang's son who later married Auntie Nina Joromo.
I don't know how or why Tata Batyong ended back in Catmon or how and why Uncle Tasio ended up in Knightsen, California. It is one of the twist and turns of family history that we may never find out.
It has been fun for me to think and write about the family story. I hope you will share this with your family. Knowledge of family history is supposed to be good for the identity development of young people.
Family provides us roots to keep us grounded and help us grow.
Thursday, August 09, 2007
Immigration or How We Ended Up In Michigan
I showed tourism pictures of Cebu to some of my co-workers. All glossy and beautiful. The first questions asked are: "Why did you leave? What are you doing in Michigan?"
The short answer is "My Mom is from here. She was born in Tennessee Street in Detroit, on December 14, 1926."
I have seen the house. It was in a neighborhood where I worked with Habitat for Humanity for a couple of years. The City of Detroit actually gave me a Certificate of Appreciation this year for "Dedication and Commitment to Revitalize the Community" - sad, to say the city is in disrepair and need a lot of help.
Lolo Emilio - I have never met him but, I understand he was quiet a guy although very sickly - more about this later - took Lola Bette and his kids to Catmon a couple of times. The depression came with the hard financial times on the second trip.
Lola Bette was pregnant with Auntie Geline. She stayed in Catmon, where Auntie was born. Then, the Tydings McDuffie Law was passed by the US congress. The migration status of Filipinos was changed from unlimited free entry for Filipinos to a quota of 50 Filipinos allowed per year.
There were three factors driving the law and change: 1 - Filipino leadership were pushing for independence. 2 - The US economy was not doing very well and did not want shoulder the financial burden of administering the Philippines. 3 - The Filipino labor force in the US was growing quickly - then all of a sudden jobs became scarce so to appease labor demands they had to get rid of Filipino workers.
For Lola Bette and Auntie Geline - it was a hopeless situation although Mom and Uncle Junior were both US citizens. The whole family was split and splintered. I listened and watched Lola cry many nights because of the separation. She never saw Lolo Emilio ever again. Auntie Geline never met her father. My mother never saw her father alive again. Our family suffered emotional, financial, psychological and spiritual consequencies because of this.
The importance of knowing the laws and being politically active was driven home to me once I learned this story. It deepened my political understanding that real flesh and blood people are affected by government laws and policies. I am currently very active in the Immigration Reform and Immigrant and Refugee Rights!
The short answer is "My Mom is from here. She was born in Tennessee Street in Detroit, on December 14, 1926."
I have seen the house. It was in a neighborhood where I worked with Habitat for Humanity for a couple of years. The City of Detroit actually gave me a Certificate of Appreciation this year for "Dedication and Commitment to Revitalize the Community" - sad, to say the city is in disrepair and need a lot of help.
Lolo Emilio - I have never met him but, I understand he was quiet a guy although very sickly - more about this later - took Lola Bette and his kids to Catmon a couple of times. The depression came with the hard financial times on the second trip.
Lola Bette was pregnant with Auntie Geline. She stayed in Catmon, where Auntie was born. Then, the Tydings McDuffie Law was passed by the US congress. The migration status of Filipinos was changed from unlimited free entry for Filipinos to a quota of 50 Filipinos allowed per year.
There were three factors driving the law and change: 1 - Filipino leadership were pushing for independence. 2 - The US economy was not doing very well and did not want shoulder the financial burden of administering the Philippines. 3 - The Filipino labor force in the US was growing quickly - then all of a sudden jobs became scarce so to appease labor demands they had to get rid of Filipino workers.
For Lola Bette and Auntie Geline - it was a hopeless situation although Mom and Uncle Junior were both US citizens. The whole family was split and splintered. I listened and watched Lola cry many nights because of the separation. She never saw Lolo Emilio ever again. Auntie Geline never met her father. My mother never saw her father alive again. Our family suffered emotional, financial, psychological and spiritual consequencies because of this.
The importance of knowing the laws and being politically active was driven home to me once I learned this story. It deepened my political understanding that real flesh and blood people are affected by government laws and policies. I am currently very active in the Immigration Reform and Immigrant and Refugee Rights!
Sunday, August 05, 2007
The "Lolas" and the "Apos"
I have two of my grandchildren today - Manny and Dominic. It brought up some memories about the Lolas and the cousins growing up in Catmon. We were the "pinikas" - how I am not sure how it translates in English - roughly "designated" grandchildren.
There was me, Ethna - Teresa's daughter living with Lola Beatriz (Emilio). My mother was living first in Michigan and then California. My mother was the eldest and I am the eldest also. Later on, I was replaced by Eva (I called her Bambi)- Tia Geline's eldest. Tia Geline and Tio Edgar were living in Kiburiao, Bukidnon.
Michael - the son of Tio Lorenzo and Tia Loreto lived with Lola Vidad (Mateo). His parents also lived in Bukidnon. We went through school together. Later on, Louella lived with Lola Vidad. Her parents Tio Vicente and Tia Quiling lived in Iligan.
Lola Milyang (married to Regalado and De Dios) had Manoling and later on Riza - both daughters of Tio Dodo and Tita Remy. The family lived in the city but the two girls, especially Riza stayed in Catmon.
Lola Sayong (Gervasio - Tata Batoy)had Roy and later Villeza. They are the son and daughter of Titi Bebeng and Tia Moning. The family lived in Medellin.
There was me, Ethna - Teresa's daughter living with Lola Beatriz (Emilio). My mother was living first in Michigan and then California. My mother was the eldest and I am the eldest also. Later on, I was replaced by Eva (I called her Bambi)- Tia Geline's eldest. Tia Geline and Tio Edgar were living in Kiburiao, Bukidnon.
Michael - the son of Tio Lorenzo and Tia Loreto lived with Lola Vidad (Mateo). His parents also lived in Bukidnon. We went through school together. Later on, Louella lived with Lola Vidad. Her parents Tio Vicente and Tia Quiling lived in Iligan.
Lola Milyang (married to Regalado and De Dios) had Manoling and later on Riza - both daughters of Tio Dodo and Tita Remy. The family lived in the city but the two girls, especially Riza stayed in Catmon.
Lola Sayong (Gervasio - Tata Batoy)had Roy and later Villeza. They are the son and daughter of Titi Bebeng and Tia Moning. The family lived in Medellin.
Sunday, July 29, 2007
Passing the Connections On
I showed the Catmonanon web page to my grandson Dominic yesterday, I told him that the angel is her cousin Ella. He seemed pretty impressed but lost interest quickly - typical of his age. Although he expressed his desire to go and see Catmon.
Well, my mother is Teresa Montecillo. Her parents are Beatriz de la Cruz and Emilio Rivera Montecillo. I don't know Lola's side of the family. I know that my great grandfather was Pantaleon Montecillo who was married to Teresa Rivera and Catalina Loyola.
I remember Lola Taling vividly.
My father is Juan Oro Rojo who is married to Julia Menchavez. If I am not mistaken, Pantaleon's mother was a Menchavez. To the best of my memory, we used to go to Sogod and Bao - a lot for birthdays, weddings, deaths, ordinations at the Menchavez branch of the family.
I married Donald Leroy Rankine II and have three children. Leto (Donald III), Rosanne Maria and Lauren Alexandra. Dominic Elliott Oro Rankine is the son of Lauren Alexandra and Michael Halam.
So Dominic and his cousins, Emmanuel, Zachary and Auguste are at least 3 degrees away from being a Rivera, Montecillo, Menchavez. Still I want them to have solid knowledge of my branch of the family.
Well, my mother is Teresa Montecillo. Her parents are Beatriz de la Cruz and Emilio Rivera Montecillo. I don't know Lola's side of the family. I know that my great grandfather was Pantaleon Montecillo who was married to Teresa Rivera and Catalina Loyola.
I remember Lola Taling vividly.
My father is Juan Oro Rojo who is married to Julia Menchavez. If I am not mistaken, Pantaleon's mother was a Menchavez. To the best of my memory, we used to go to Sogod and Bao - a lot for birthdays, weddings, deaths, ordinations at the Menchavez branch of the family.
I married Donald Leroy Rankine II and have three children. Leto (Donald III), Rosanne Maria and Lauren Alexandra. Dominic Elliott Oro Rankine is the son of Lauren Alexandra and Michael Halam.
So Dominic and his cousins, Emmanuel, Zachary and Auguste are at least 3 degrees away from being a Rivera, Montecillo, Menchavez. Still I want them to have solid knowledge of my branch of the family.
Thursday, July 26, 2007
Auntie's Betrothal
What if I start writing down various memories and remembrances about the family for reference for the future generations. This thought came to me when I got out of the shower this morning.
There is a part of me that is full of regret of my lack of interest in family and family happenings.
The memory today is about the betrothal of Auntie Evangeline to Uncle Edgar as I remember it.
Auntie was teaching in Kiburiao, Bukidnon at the time. That is where she met Uncle Edgar. She came home for the summer. Then Tia Didang Oyas came back from Bukidnon with a man and Catmon was all abuzz with rumors. There was a lot of comings and goings in our house. Auntie sent me on a lot of errands to Tia Didang's house. The man who came with Tia Didang was ill. Some said he had malaria, some said his body was trying to adjust to the lowlands.
One afternoon, a few days later - Man Iroy and the man came to our house. I was sent to Ilaya to fetch Tata Batoy - except that Tata Batoy was already on his way to the house. Man Iroy started talking to Lola and Tata Batoy.
Auntie and I were in the kitchen preparing something to serve the guests - when all of a sudden Lola burst through the curtains, picked a piece of firewood under the stove and started hitting Auntie with it.
I was stunned, Auntie was running around trying to avoid being hit. Lola was yelling something about Auntie was not ready to be married and that she would kill Auntie first before she would allow her to marry.
Auntie told Lola that she was going to get married anyway because there is a baby on the way - Lola stopped for a minute and then she started crying and hitting Auntie all over again.
Tata Batoy came in and asked both women to go into the sala, sit down and set the wedding date as he had given his permission for Auntie to marry.
There is a part of me that is full of regret of my lack of interest in family and family happenings.
The memory today is about the betrothal of Auntie Evangeline to Uncle Edgar as I remember it.
Auntie was teaching in Kiburiao, Bukidnon at the time. That is where she met Uncle Edgar. She came home for the summer. Then Tia Didang Oyas came back from Bukidnon with a man and Catmon was all abuzz with rumors. There was a lot of comings and goings in our house. Auntie sent me on a lot of errands to Tia Didang's house. The man who came with Tia Didang was ill. Some said he had malaria, some said his body was trying to adjust to the lowlands.
One afternoon, a few days later - Man Iroy and the man came to our house. I was sent to Ilaya to fetch Tata Batoy - except that Tata Batoy was already on his way to the house. Man Iroy started talking to Lola and Tata Batoy.
Auntie and I were in the kitchen preparing something to serve the guests - when all of a sudden Lola burst through the curtains, picked a piece of firewood under the stove and started hitting Auntie with it.
I was stunned, Auntie was running around trying to avoid being hit. Lola was yelling something about Auntie was not ready to be married and that she would kill Auntie first before she would allow her to marry.
Auntie told Lola that she was going to get married anyway because there is a baby on the way - Lola stopped for a minute and then she started crying and hitting Auntie all over again.
Tata Batoy came in and asked both women to go into the sala, sit down and set the wedding date as he had given his permission for Auntie to marry.
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
reconnecting
As luck and recovery would have it, I am going full circle, I have started to reconnect to relatives in Catmon.
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